Updated: Jul 16, 2021
Being in a relationship has never been a walk in the park. Especially when you are living with someone else, however, regular routine and work usually provide a sense of freedom and somehow a relief in the togetherness. However when the pandemic happened it left us with no space, nowhere to go and although people love each other it was hard. Working with a relationship counselor, you and your partner are able to explore the bigger picture of your relationship and individual encounters, and possibly answer the “what if” of life.
"My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and the courage to accept the love in return." – Maya Angelou quotes on love and relationships #RelationshipGoals
Couple therapy isn't a sign that relationships are ending, or that separation is coming. On the contrary, couple therapy can help a healthy relationship stay healthy and continue to grow healthy communication. Saying “relationships are hard” is so common it’s a cliché now. But it’s also true. Even when people get along really well, stress and daily life can cause conflicts that seem difficult or even impossible to resolve. Relationship counseling can help people in these tough situations to work through their problems, move beyond them, and be better partners overall.
When to Seek Relationship Therapy
Many people believe that you should only seek relationship counseling when separation or divorce are looming. But that is often too little, too late. Relationship therapy should begin as soon as the problems get in the way of your daily life. Here are some signs that you might benefit from a consultation:
You have trouble expressing your feelings to one another
You have one or more unsolvable arguments
There is disinterest when your partner isn't happy
A stressful event has made daily life hard for you to communicate & trust each other
You have trouble making decisions together
You experienced infidelity, addiction, or potential abuse
Discovering the root causes of major points of conflict
You want a stronger relationship
They want to resolve differences over major decisions, such as whether to get married or have a child
Cope we lost and life transition such as, recently marry, newly parents, retirement, children moving out & more
Emotional and physical intimacy improvement
Staying connected, especially in a long term relationship without disagreement is unheard of. We meet new people everyday, we learn new behavior, we reinvent ourselves everyday and so do our partners, therefore we will become strangers to each other. It is a healthy sign for us to be and act as individuals when we are in a relationship but when you are happier being completely individual because anger, fear, arguments and unhappiness disappear when you are alone that is the time for therapy.
There are no wrong reasons to seek relationship counseling. Some couples start therapy as soon as they are married, even without obvious problems, to prevent serious problems from developing. Therapy can help you become a better communicator, develop strong relationship skills, and improve your family’s happiness. A therapist is a neutral party, who is there to listen to both individuals to explore, recognize, and resolve conflicts in an effort to improve their relationships and interactions. Therapists encourage couples to state their thoughts, feelings, and desires to each other in a clear and compassionate manner.